I finally understand myself. It was all just my Mormon background. It was all just my Mormonism! I was reading an article (by accident) to contribute to the Pologamy thread in the Terrestrial section and I found
https://universe.BYU.edu/2015/10/20/rat ... than-men1/women older than 20 and single are perceived as left overs, by 25, old, by 30 spinsters… As a result, the women become more and more accomplished and therefore more and more intimidating and ultimately not the sweet, young thing the 20-year-old had in mind as the “perfect” LDS girl. Many of the other responses echoed the same ideas. The article on ldsmag.com, “Survey about LDS singles reveals surprising results,” has a full list of the responses.
When I said, "18-22 are generally more attractive" Lemmie made a big deal and called me a creep, a pig, and a sexist. She insisted with no evidence that I was reading incel propaganda.
The Chastity Project (a non-LDS channel) has a video called "My partner's sexual past haunts me... What can I do?" confirms my theory that religion really messes up your mind. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sdJIOZuJ72Y
And I blame religion for the overreaction on STI. "Tyrone, a 20-year-old man, put it this way to Twenge for her book, iGen: His generation is having less sex “because of fear of pregnancy and disease.”"
https://www.politico.com/magazine/story ... sex-216953