(partial quote, regarding a request for a more encompassing series of apologies
I'm struck, "Dr. Moore," by your insistence -- certainly directed at me -- that a simple withdrawal of the allegation of "telling a baldfaced lie" is not enough for you to donate to charity, but rather that an apology is required, and by the apparent fact that only one "side" is being asked to apologize.
You have said, if I'm not mistaken, that this blog and Mr. Shades's message board are effectively equivalent in their hostility to and disdain for each other. I think that statement demonstrably and plainly false, but, for the sake of discussion, let's assume it to be true.
Why do you not seek an apology from anybody at Mr. Shades's board? Why have you not offered a balancing thousand dollars to, say, my Malevolent Stalker's favorite charity, or to the Mini-Stalker's? One or both of them could apologize for the terrible allegations they've made against me, for example.
In an effort to hear you better, let me try and restate your position. Because what I think I hear, here, is super encouraging.
Would you like to see something a bit more encompassing? Like a multiple party matrix of apologies? For all the years of hateful personal attacks?
What a wonderful idea!
I would be thrilled to help broker, to the degree such an event might be possible, a thoughtfully planned airing of personal grievances and a series of heartfelt apologies for whatever behaviors have crossed the line, so to speak.
Nothing would make me happier than to see the fervor elevates with a more civilized foundation.
It is painfully clear to me, after just a short time monitoring (and recently participating in) these apologetic debates that personal feelings and emotions run all the way to 11. All the time. What a shame. What a missed opportunity to develop empathy, find growth, and lift everyone up in spite of disagreements. Truly, I would love nothing more than to see it all ratchet down in the name of ratcheting up progress.
Are you on board with helping to facilitate and participate in such an event? I am certain we could identify a neutral online location, registration and validation process, and a means by which folks can safely identify specific offending behaviors, why it was offensive, and request an simple apology. And then, by mutual agreement, for everyone to freely and sincerely offer such apologies.
Fully acknowledging that such event would in no way lessen the potent disagreements or even heal all wounds. But it could symbolize a commitment to treat one another better. It would be a very nice start.
What do you propose? Like Samwise Gamgee, I stand ready to help with this worthy quest and don’t mean to leave you.