I spent decades pulling fat women off the walls at dances and dance with them, to try to make them feel better about themselves. I have written UPTEEN letters to the First Presidency, asking them to start "fat farms" for overweight single Mormon women, so they would have a "chance" at finding a mate in this life.
But, they don't care.
Mormon men put "zero" value upon fat Mormon women. They don't exist. They are non-beings; just like the sexy Mormon women considered me a "non"-being, a Non-entity.
I actually "care" about overweight Mormon women! Other Mormon men did NOT in the least. And the First Presidency does not care about this, but only wants their tithing and wants them to work themselves to death at 5 Church callings and two full-time jobs for the rest of their lives.
But, because I CARE about them, does not mean I can "marry" one; because marriage usually includes sex.
Jeeze, Darrick, what is it with you and heavy girls? I mean, if you don't like them, don't date them. You don't need to make four threads per week complaining about them.
You're not into bigger girls. We get it.
I know that you're trying to be somehow "nice" to girl who are heavy with comments like these, but you're really not.
At one level, I agree that some girls that are overweight could probably eliminate (or at least ameliorate) the problem through healthier eating habits and exercise. However, I am convinced more and more that, for a certain percentage of women, they are fat because of genetic factors that are completely beyond their control. Think about it: for most of human existence, it made sense for survival for people to deliberately overeat every chance they got. Back 10,000 years ago in Africa, people wouldn't know when their next meal was coming. So, the urge to overeat was bred into us through evolution, and now that calories are cheap and readily available (and the current fashion centers around being a size 2 or smaller), many women are overweight, sometimes because of genetic factors that they don't control or understand.
I also think that, given another 10-50 years, that obesity will grow to be seen as a treatable and ultimately curable medical condition. There are drugs in Europe in the testing phase that I have read about that can dramatically reduce a person's appetite and calorie intake without a significant change in other aspect of their lifestyle. As medical science improves, I am sure that these pills are likely to get better as well.
But, back to my original point. I won't pull any punches here. I am not particularly attracted to girls who are severely overweight (e.g. more than 50 pounds) either. In my case, it's not only the image of the perfect body that the media and porn have drilled into my head over the years that makes me not want to date heavy girls but the fact that I want to live a healthy lifestyle and I want a partner who can do that with me. I love biking, hiking, weight lifting, dancing, and being outdoors; and I ultimately want to date girls who also enjoy being active. I have been with girls before that lived a sedentary lifestyle -- including a girl that I semi-dated for about four months who was 300+ pounds and my ex-wife who, while skinny and pretty, was largely sedentary. In all cases, it was an issue in the relationship. But, at the same time, I don't create multiple threads complaining about how fat girls are. If I find a girl who wants to date me and I feel that she's not attractive, I move on.
I also don't think that girls from mainland China are that attractive, on average. I actually like Asian girls, but I like girls from Thailand, the Philippines, Japan, and Kore -- not Chinese typically. However, I've never felt compelled to make multiple threads on a message board complaining about how ugly I feel Chinese girls are. And, my only point in my OP was that, for your own sake, you should just go date other girls.