In Frantalks scenario we have seen two types of response.
The spiritual response to the problem saves nobody. They all die.
In the rational, physical response two or three people are saved, minimum.
The difference between you and me is the emotional response to death. It appears that death is to be avoided at all cost in your view.
No, the difference between you and me is that when an opportunity to save someone from death was presented I took that opportunity, you didn't.
But death is a doorway in my view. Just how are we to look at death?
I know that's your view. I accept that's your view. But your view seems to mean you ignore doing things in life. In your scenario your view of death being a door meant you ignored the chance of saving someone in favour of your (sheryl'), but not necessarily their, spiritual view of the world.
How are we to look at death? Well we have a choice don't we.
You wring your hands and try and help yourself feel good about dying by reading scriptures and trying to find a feeling you ascribe to being spiritual, fair enough that's your choice.
I focus on living life as fully as I can, and helping others around me live life as fully as they can. We will both end up dead, but I will have a smile on my face and a clear conscience when I go. People will tell funny stories at my funeral and laugh about the times we had and the good things (and the daft things) we did together.
I get my joy through being with, doing things with and helping other people (especally family and friends) through good times and bad, by physically doing things.