fetchface wrote:
Out of the blue, I got a Facebook message from this guy apologizing for abruptly cutting off contact with me. He told me that he was asked to by the bishop because the bishop was afraid I would hurt his faith. His wife was also asked not to confide her problems in my wife by this same bishop. Very culty bishop behavior interfering in friendships like that.
A close family member, out of the blue, said he was unfollowing because I "hate [him] and [his] family."
I sometimes criticize the church when talking to other people, never to him, and never in my own posts.
I understood the unfollow, I mean, I had already stopped following him because seeing his posts just saddened me since the family reunion where he was markedly cool and distanced from me. But I hadn't said anything.
It felt like a jab. I saw no reason for it, except to pick a fight. I did not fight.
It really shocked me, too. He is extremely intelligent and also pretty laid back and VERY philosophical about the church. But I guess you can be all those things and yet still incredibly attached to the church identity.