Jersey Girl wrote:
Boy does this ever hit home...
Why make Thanksgiving the holiday that your TBM family feels they "lost" their son or daughter from the Church?
I know three people whose loved ones died this year. One just a month ago. When I think of them at this time of year, I know all too well how those engaging the grief process tend to mark anniversaries (Last Thanksgiving, Last Christmas and coming to terms with the fact that it really was
the last time) as they begin moving forward and processing all that has happened in their lives this year.
Liz is exactly right. If what I've heard regarding parent's reactions to apostasy on the part of a family member is true, I urge you to rethink your decision about Thanksgiving.
I do believe that most of your TBM family will begin a grief process on account of this.
Please don't do it to them on a significant holiday.
It's going to make them feel like their family died
AMEN, Jersey Girl!!! This is one smart woman, Zee, which is why she is my best friend on the board!!!
If you won't listen to me, I urge you to listen to HER!!
Jersey Girl is exactly right. You have to remember that for your TBM extended family, right or wrong, like it or not, they WILL experience a grieving process. I think this is something that BOTH you and your wife need to be sensitive to...not only for your sakes, but for your CHILDREN'S sakes. This is the relationship with "Grandma's and Grandpa's" we're talking about. Do you really think it's wise to put your kids smack dab in the middle of this type of awkwardness at a family holiday?
I get that you and your wife are pleased with your decision, and want to make a statement, but I think there are better ways to go about it than this.
It's something that really does need to be handled privately.
And, honestly...even then...it's not going to be a cake-walk.
A great example of a person who I believe handled her decisions to leave the Church with a lot of class and grace is Beastie. Search through some of her experiences, or PM her.