So then, a father, such as I, has no rights to stand for his children?
The other spouse has no rights?[quote]
In my case, my wife always did have her own rights and own choices. Even served as a counselor in the RS presidency for nearly three years after I went completely inactive.
It took her much longer to realize what I did in three weeks. But once she did, she now thanks me for taking a stand and not hiding my feelings about what mormonism can do to children.
What did I do?
Drank coffee in front of the kids and even let them try some when my daughter came home from a primary lesson that said drinking coffee was bad.
I never drank alcohol in front of them. But today now that we all are out, my wife and I keep beer and wine in the fridge and drink freely in front of them, in moderation of course. Hell we have even taken them to the local BevMo alcohol store to pick up a mini keg of german beer for a party.
Every week I told the kids I would miss them while they were at church.
And yes, she had a bishop, two actually, all but tell her to divorce me. The got as close to it as they could, probably because the CHI stopped them.
I actually had to call on bishop on the phone and told him to stop talking to my wife and kids or I would fill his office with future apostates. He stopped even looking at my wife in the hallways of the chapel.
Bottom line is the LDS church still values membership over families. They are just more subtle about it now.