Kish, I gotta call you out on this one. As you admitted, you stopped attending church. That, along with whatever other things you do that don't correspond to Mormon orthodoxy, would be enough for many Mormons to say that you have violated and abandoned your covenants. People in glass houses...
I think this is a silly argument. It would be one thing if I were saying that I am personally outraged and offended by the wicked Tom Phillips. What I am saying is that he made a bad call. That bad call, in my view, is a product of his conversion to a new world view, which many people here share, in which the temple is nothing more or less than kind of a sham play-act that the Church uses to manipulate members into handing over their cash.
I understand this line of thought perfectly well. Tom Phillips' supporters are happy that he was polite as he revealed the contents of a Mormon sacred ritual, because all sharing this perspective think that ultimately the Church is a sham, and that the members are better off being informed of this as politely, but firmly, as possible, so that they will discontinue being victimized by a heartless corporation that is masquerading as a religion.
Regardless, however, of whatever Tom, or you, or I may think about the "cold, hard facts," the rites of the Mormon temple are a sacred community trust that, in the view of believers, bind the initiate to God, the community of the faithful of all generations, and their loved ones. Therefore, it is highly unlikely that most believing LDS people who have entered into those covenants are going to thank you for revealing the secrets because they just wanted to know. They will be upset that you stepped all over something that once drew you closer together as a family and community.
People who cease to believe seem to me to have difficulty with this last part. They are motivated by the same love of family that motivates their family to want to continue to enjoy Mormon blessings, but they often miscalculate in how they treat those family members who are obviously not in the same place they are. These believing family members treat the violation of temple covenants as a rejection of the sacred bond of the prospectively eternal family. They are not thinking about the LDS Church being a heartless corporation with a large cashflow.
Tom Phillips' wife was in heaven with her husband in a way that few spouses will ever experience. He comes along one day and spits all over that, and the poor woman's whole life is turned upside down. Many people would blame the LDS Church. I would blame Tom Phillips too for being so obtuse that he rushed into breaking his wife's heart. You say, "well, it was good for her to be pushed to confront the cold, hard facts." I am not convinced that it is all that simple and straightforward. That is why I can't join those of you who rejoice over what Tom Phillips has done, as decent and honorable a man as he strikes me.
On the other hand, I know that he was motivated by all the best intentions, and by what he believed to be the best of values. It is difficult for me to condemn him, especially as I am, like you say, a "covenant breaker" myself. I simply don't agree, and I don't rejoice for him in revealing the contents of sacred Mormon rituals. I find the whole thing tragic in its own way. I really feel for this guy's wife, just as I feel for him.